There were many moments in this little gem of a movie that touched me and even made me teary but the scene that I loved the most is when a very pregnant “June bug,” played by Ellen Page walks through the front door, thankful to be home to find her Dad tinkering away at some gadget at the kitchen table. He asks her where she has been to which she replies, “Dealing with stuff way beyond my maturity level.” She is feeling a little crushed b/c (without spoiling it for those who have not seen it) she recently learns something that makes her lose faith in “humanity” and love. She asks her Dad if it is possible for “two people to stay happy together forever or at least for a few years.” He agrees that it is not easy but then he tells her:
In my opinion, the best thing you can do is to find a person who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you, the right person will still think that the sun shines out your ass. That’s the kind of person that’s worth sticking with.
Danny and I talked a little about this on the way home from the movie. What is it that makes people say “i’m not in love with you anymore?” Were they ever really in love to begin with? I have heard some people say, after many years of marriage – when things are not as happy as they had hoped, “he is not the same person I married?” To which I think, how can you expect him/her to be? Life is about changing, growing and experiencing new things. I am not the same person I was a year ago, never mind 14 years ago when Danny and I first got together. I find that when relationships don’t work out – many times it is because instead of letting your person be exactly who they are in that moment, we have expectations and want them to fit our mold of who we wish them to be. I think if you are secure with yourself and happy in your own life, then you can accept and love people for “what” they really are.
I hope you have/find someone, who thinks the sun shines out of your ass. Oh, and if you haven’t already – go see this movie. At times, the writing is a bit beyond the years of the actors, particularly in the first few scenes but then it mellows out and is just stellar all around. Loved the soundtrack too!