There are always things you realize after the fact but unlike other events, a wedding is something you hopefully will only do once. Our day was a perfect reflection of how we live life: it was joyful, loving, a little crazy and as my brother-in-law says, “it was a kick in the pants.” I think the whole wedding weekend was incredibly fun and enjoyed by all. But if I had to do it again, I just might:
- Hire a wedding planner. I have planned and catered many events but on your wedding, you don’t have time to take things into your own hands. I would hire a planner to help with a few things and to mainly manage the flow on the day of the wedding. If there is no person in charge, you will get bombarded with questions. A planner can intercept all the people on their way to you, making it easier for you to enjoy your day. Hiring a planner can also save you time and money in other areas because an experienced planner will have relationships with local vendors and should know how you can save some money.
- Have a back-up plan in place. We had an outdoor wedding and it rained during our ceremony. We pushed the wedding out by 30minutes to 1hr but had to make the call in the final 30 to move the chairs off the grass and inside the tent. To ease your stress on the day, create two alternate lay-outs – one for rain, one for sun.
- Not cater the rehearsal dinner myself. Perhaps the most stressful part of the entire wedding for me was preparing the BBQ Rehearsal dinner. I planned the menu, had to run to Costco, buy all the groceries, and do all the prep. And at 3:00pm, 2 1/2 hours before the dinner was set to start – I discovered that the salmon and meat that I had bought were FROZEN. Someone had accidentally put all the meat and fish in the freezer. Ack! I had to thaw it all out and get it ready to grill. It was really the last thing I should have been doing. My friends pitched in too – making salads, sangria and grilling up some food. And it all worked out just fine but I should have had it catered.